Stressed with wedding plans? Nervous about the day running smoothly? Stay calm by taking care of yourself - inside and out - with these top tips from wellbeing expert and author, Glenn Harrold of De-stress Your Life: In Seven Easy Steps.
- All of us have an endless life commentary running in our heads but most of us aren't aware of the messages we are giving ourselves. What you think influences how you feel. Listen to what you are telling yourself. When a negative thought, such as, 'I'll never get everything done in time!' arises, stop it in its tracks and think about something else.
- Don't sweat the small stuff. If you want candles at the reception but the venue won't allow it, ask yourself if it really matters. 'Think back to things that stressed you in the passed month and you'll find that most of them are insignificant and caused you no last problem. It's often the way we react that exacerbates the stress we feel.' You'll stay calmer if you keep a sense of perspective, accept what you can't change. Move on.
- Pick a phrase you find soothing, such as, 'Everything will be all right.' When you start to feel overwhelmed, repeat it to yourself until you feel better.
- When you feel stressed you are reacting to a situation. When you learn to temper the way you react, you will control stress levels.
- Keep a journal. It's natural to experience all kinds of thoughts and feelings at this time. If difficult emotions come up, don't try to suppress them - release them by putting them down on paper.
- Ask for support when you need it. Talk to a close friend about how you're feeling and get friends and family to help if you are snowed under. Delegate responsibility for tasks that need to be done on the wedding day so you don't have to think about them.
- Plan for things that could go wrong - pack spare stockings in case yours ladder, for example - but accept that you can't control everything on the day. Make a promised to yourself that you won't let anything dampen your mood.
- Don't create stress by chasing the dream of the mythical 'perfect' day. Focus instead on creating a fun memorable day.