It’s not that you don’t want any children there on the day, it’s just that there are certain littlies you could do without. Etiquette expert Sian Jaquet tells one reader how to deal.
Q: Many of our friends have badly behaved children, so my fiance and I have decided we don’t want children at our wedding. The exception is a close friend of ours whose two girls we adore and with whom we share an extremely close relationship. How do we invite the girls without offending the other parents in attendance?
Dear Bride with Kid Quandary,
This may come as a surprise, but most parents of badly behaved children are quite aware of it. Here’s the plan: call each of them individually. Tell them you have been worried about making this call in case you offend them, but having decided you’re keeping the list of children to the very minimum, would they mind coming without theirs? Suggest it’s a golden opportunity for them to have time as a couple on their own where they can focus on enjoying themselves. You don’t have to justify the two children you are inviting. If you’re both close to these little girls and want them to be a part of your day then you don’t need anyone’s permission.